Since we all live under rules and laws, we all depend on someone or something. And that does make a lot of sense. Also an independent lifestyle can never be completely independent of external systems and therefore is a part of that system. But when we turn to our inner possibilities, we are able to make our decisions according to our own internal criteria. Here I share with you my reasons why I think it is important to opt for an independent lifestyle. Especially in a fast-paced world, where it is becoming increasingly difficult to orient oneself, it is important to know your own criteria well and to get hold of yourself.
So it does make a lot of sense to strive to live independently. It is about focusing on your own self and putting yourself as priority in your life. It is about having control over your own life.
Why choose to live a independent lifestyle?
Here are a few good reasons to step up and dare yourself to live with independence:
- A plus for your self-confidence – living a independent lifestyle makes you more self-confident. Making decisions and taking actions that follow your own terms will give you a lot of self-confidence. As your thinking and behaviour changes, you’ll find that you’re trying things out for the first time and getting out of your comfort zone. Your results will be new and different than the ones you usually get. Trust the process; You will be rewarded..
- Less dependence on others – Naturally, the more you follow your own definitions and live under your own terms, the less you’ll depend on others. You will not wait for a word of advice or fear criticism if things go wrong.
- Reduced stress – trusting your instinct and your own conditions will minimise your emotional dependence on others. Emotional stress is one of the strongest energy suckers. Preferably we should use this energy to achieve our goals:)
- Sense of accomplishment – You’ve achieved something great.You can be proud having done something difficult and worthwhile for yourself! I love and agree with the quote of Ralph Waldo Emerson saying: “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment”
- Improved decision-making – because your goal and thus your path is clear, you can analyse situations much faster and more targeted. You can find this trait in every successful person.
- Personal improvement and creativity – with all the boosting confidence and less stress it all gets better. You get your creative juices flowing in that happy brain which makes you want to focus on the beautiful things. It makes you feel enough for your own self which is a positive attitude to life we all need.
- Broader Horizons – Your perspective will broaden and your horizon will expand. As you become more curious and start questioning yourself more and more deeply, you are broadening your perspective and your horizon at the same time. The deeper your understanding of yourself, the deeper your understanding of others and the world becomes.
- Self-value and self-esteem – the difference between success and failure is rarely due to any lasting ability, but to lack of self-confidence. Henry Ford was absolutely right when he said, “Whether you think you can do it or you think you can not; You’re right”. Make sure that you fulfill your tasks as your self-esteem will grow accordingly.
Summarized, living a independent life is about thinking and acting indepedent.
To build an independent mindset means to accept oneself, to believe in oneself, to accept the world, to be emotionally independent, to be self-motivated, to see oneself as a role model, not to worry about other peoples opinion and to prove oneself to always give the best.
Acting independent means to secure your finances, to defend your opinions, work on activities that force you to lead, to break away from bad influences, to plan and follow your own schedule, and seek support from others.
I finish this post with the convincing quote from Lao Tzu: “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
Sincerely yours, Yvonne